Love Systems (ex-Mystery Method Crp) Super Conference Video

The big PUA event of the year is always the Love Systems Super Conference. This year it's going to be bigger and badder than ever. Las Vegas, at the Hard Rock Hotel & Casino, October 8-12.

Here's a video one of the boys made from last year..

Speaking of Cajun...

So yesterday I posted a couple of new video podcasts of Cajun and Tenmagnet. They're pretty good and definitely worth checking out.

Cajun (of Keys to the VIP) will be part of my all-star team for the Advanced Bootcamp at the Playboy Mansion coming up in August. Along with Future and Dahunter.

I don't think the Playboy Mansion has ever seen anything like this...

New Free Love Systems Video Podcast (Cajun & Tenmagnet)

Great stuff in there about the power of silence, attracting women who don't speak English, and so on. All in the traditional crazy Cajun and Tenmagnet style..

Sorry the right hand of the video is cropped a little bit -- seems to be happening to videos on this blog. Will fix at some point. You can get the original videos on the Love Systems (formerly Mystery Method Corp) video pick up channel.







Enjoy!

Why the Michael Jackson footage is wrong...

TV vans were parked around the block near my Hollywood apartment on Thursday. I live right in the middle of the Hollywood Walk of Fame and pretty much every network I had heard of was using Michael Jackson's star as a backdrop for reporting on his death.

Except they were all wrong.

There are actually TWO Michael Jackson stars. The one for the dead weirdo is by the Kodak Theatre on Hollywood Blvd.

The one every TV camera was at (and the one right by my apt) is for Michael Jackson, the radio commentator.

You'd heard of him before today, haven't you? What, you're not up on your Los Angeles-based radio personalities? Sheesh.

Playboy Mansion, August 15

I love the Playboy Mansion. The most beautiful women in the world come to party – and to meet powerful, well-connected men. So it's a fun challenge and a great way to show off Love Systems. I love the look on the face of a Hollywood suit at the Playboy Mansion when an average guy like me pulls a hot Playboy girl off his arms :)

We’ve been able to get access to a small number of tickets to an exclusive Playboy Mansion party on August 15th...

What’s more, we’re mixing that with two full days of Advanced Love Systems techniques, taught by me personally. If I’m going to take you into the lion’s den, I’m going to make darn sure you’re armed to the teeth.

As one of last year’s lucky few put it:

“The only way anyone exposed to this material [from the Advanced Bootcamp] could fail . . . you would have to be lazy and just not do anything.” (Source)

Heck, we even brought our summer office intern up to the Mansion as a goodbye present. He sat in on the seminar, and that night he hooked up with a major hottie – behind our cabana no less. (That the “guy who worked in the Love Systems office” in this review)

The Playboy Mansion – What to Expect

Playboy Mansion parties put even top clubs to shame. It’s a giant outdoor party, hundreds of people, insane numbers of the most beautiful women. It’s a great place to test your skills. It’s not too loud to talk. There are lots of private areas. And of course there is the infamous grotto…
…which is why I’ll be making the extreme sacrifice of teaching it personally.

Normally, I only teach at our annual Super Conference. I do a couple of one-on-ones every year, at about $7,500 per day. But for the Playboy Mansion – and the chance to repeat last year’s success – I’m in.

It's not only great training, but it’s also an almost illegal amount of fun. Here’s what’s on tap:

• 2 full days of advanced, never-before-released material
• Exclusive ticket to the Playboy Mansion (included)
• Catering service (included)
• Open bar at the Playboy Mansion (go easy, gentlemen)
• Live coaching from myself and other top Love Systems instructors at the Mansion itself

More details on official Advanced Bootcamp at the Playboy Mansion page.

The potato chip method

If you don't feel like learning Love Systems, apparently you can get laid in Oklahoma by driving around with some potato chips.

http://www.newsok.com/oklahoma-city-woman-trades-sex-for-case-of-potato-chips/article/3380255?custom_click=masthead_topten

Not exactly Playboy Mansion quality though...

The Boston Globe....again

Another firestorm in the Boston Globe comments section about Love Systems.

For background on Love Systems (formerly Mystery Method Corp) and the Boston Globe, click here.

For some followup controversy, combined with some fun rants about online dating, grab a bowl of popcorn and head back over to the Boston Globe website.

Magic Bullets Review - Sound Familiar?

Excerpted from an email I got today from someone who just read Magic Bullets...it's great to be part of something that is changing the dynamic of men and dating. I think a lot of guys can gone through many of these steps (and even a few additional ones...)


I used to think that attracting a woman meant being nice to her.

I bought women flowers, took them on dates, listened to their problems, and turned into a great “friend”

Then I thought that attracting a woman meant showing her my long term potential.

I told women I was loyal, faithful, love kids and have a good job and turned into possible marriage material if she was older and still hadn't found someone.

Then I thought attracting women meant working out every day, and turned into a guy who worked out every day without women noticing.

Then I thought that attracting a woman meant dressing like I was 14. That at least got me attention, but it was the wrong kind of attention for every kind of girl except the really young insecure ones with nothing going on but looks and a need for attention.

Then I found Love Systems. I had no idea that these problems were already solved.

Thank you.

Texts from Last Night

I swear, I love this site:

"woke up naked, spooning with wine bottle.. and my video chat was still open. fuck, not again."

"I wasn't pimping you out... I was helping you network!"

(That's one of those irregular verbs, isn't it? I was helping you network, you were being a slut, and so on?)

"everyone is single if you try hard enough"


The weird part of reading that site is every once in a while you'll come across a text and I'm like...I think I know that guy/girl. There's an argument to be made here that I need classier friends. Nah.

Send me any particularly shameful texts you've sent or received. I might post anything really good. -NS

How Day Game / Daytime Dating PUA Soul learned to attract women

Found this on the Pickup Artist Video Channel. It's a great introduction to Love Systems instructor Soul and his innovative style of Live Infield Day Game Workshops.

If the video isn't displaying right (blogger seems to have a gremlin today), try the direct link to Soul's PUA Video

Love Systems Tech Internships -- learn game for free

Hey guys --

It's getting harder and harder to keep up with demand for Love Systems (formerly Mystery Method Corp). So we're opening things up for a tech internship or two.

We’re ideally looking for a minimum 15 hour commitment per week.

Payment can be in cash or (at a much bigger rate) barter. So if you have tech skills but haven’t been able to afford a bootcamp or seminar or even some of our products, this is your opportunity.

Skills that we’re looking for include:

• Ability to code and debug html (inc. web forms)
• Ability to cut up .psd's and code them for websites
• Bonus points for advanced understanding of .php and server side functionality.
• Graphic design skills for making signup boxes and implementing new CSS
• Familiarity with Google Webmaster Tools, and experience with setting up split test codes for multivariable Google split testing
• Living in or near Hollywood, CA, is a plus
• Knowledge of Infusionsoft a plus, but not a necessity

If you have some but not all of these skills, go ahead and apply anyway. Please include a resume, your availability, and anything you think we should know about you. Please also include what you’d be hoping to get out of this, especially whether barter or improving your game is a priority.

Source

Samantha Brett ("ask Sam") & The Sydney Morning Herald

Australia is going Love Systems crazy! If you're one of the new folks from down under, welcome to the blog. I'll try to throw in some annoying references to dingos eating babies, Foster's beer that I never actually saw anyone in Australia drink, and those creepy Energizer commercials from the 80s.

The latest is the Sydney Morning Herald - by Samantha Brett aka "Ask Sam" - it's a little disjointed, as phone interviews often are, but there are already almost 200 comments so we're definitely sparking controversy...as usual. Go join the food fight!

(Also check out the great photo at the top...I guess that's from the new addition to the Love Systems Triad - the "move your family to a haunted hotel, go insane, and try to kill everyone" phase).

This follows on our appearance on ABC's Choose Your Own Adventure with Lawrence Leung and in the Australian edition of Cosmo.

And of course, anticipating our upcoming Love Systems Bootcamp July 3-5 in Sydney. Check it out on our schedule.

Playboy Mansion - Double Trouble

You can never have too much of a good thing, right?

So while the Super Conference folks are getting the Event of the Year going for Las Vegas October 8-11, Love Systems itself has something to announce:

The 2009 Advanced Bootcamp at the Playboy Mansion

August 15-16, 2009

Last year's reviews here.

More to come.

2009 Super Conference Lineup - first invites

Every year the Super Conference brings the top dating coaches and pickup artists from around the world to one place...to teach you everything they know.

It's a pretty prestigious honor -- usually the guys on the "Top 10" lists can get themselves invited, and then it's dependent on who is accomplishing the most for that year. There are no lifetime achievement awards...everyone has to earn their spot every year.

The most authoritative top 10 list is put out by TSB Magazine (check it out here). Out of their "top 10", 5 were there last year (including all of the top 3) and 4 others had been in previous years.

I've obviously got an invite :) I'd like to think it's not just because it's being held on my birthday weekend.

Another instructor who it's confirmed has been issued an invitation (and who of course accepted) is Brad P.

Brad P was my sometime-wingman for a while in LA and is someone even top-tier guys can learn from. Check out his website here or reviews of Brad P programs here.

Thread title of the month: My girl broke up with me; 2 hours later getting a bj thanks to Cajun's Question Game

Cajun taught his special question game routine at last year's Super Conference. I was looking for the right thread on The Attraction Forums.

Then I spat up my coffee as this thread title came up: my-girl-broke-up-me-2-hours-later-getting-bj-thanks-cajuns-question-game.

Super Conference 2009 dates and location revealed!

This year's Super Conference - the annual event that brings all the biggest names in the pick up / dating coaching field - has been set.

Hard Rock Hotel and Casino (special rate $79-$139 - code "Love Systems")
Las Vegas
October 8-11+

More information will be on the Super Conference 2009 page as it comes.

Also some interesting links:

Reviews of 2008 Super Conference
Reviews of 2007 Super Conference
The 2005 and 2006 reviews are somewhere on The Attraction Forums; I'll find them later.

Magic Bullets in Korean?

Sparked by the Brink Magazine test of whether Magic Bullets works around the world, we just sold the Korean-language translation rights to the book.

I don't normally let any rights to Magic Bullets go -- it's been too much blood, sweat, and tears to write it and then constantly revise and update it that I don't want some suit poking around and making a mess of it. All messes are mine damn it.

But given that the guys we sold it to are themselves pick up artists and have been studying and using Magic Bullets in English and gotten great results, it seemed like a good idea.

So when it's done, stand by for the link to get Magic Bullets in Korean. Done by actual professionals, I'm sure it will be better than this.

Savoy in an asylum

I think a lot of people were probably expecting that headline to show up somewhere sooner or later, but it's not what you think. At least not this time.

Asylum magazine called me a few weeks ago to talk about being a pickup artist / dating coach. It's always weird when a longish phone call gets boiled down to a few quotes, but I think they did a decent job of making Love Systems accessible to new guys.

Check out the article here.

Project Rockstar 2009 Applications Open

The rumors are true...we're repeating last year's wildly successful (and free) Project Rockstar - a 2 month immersion course in Love Systems. The training is so good and so spectacular that two of last year's participants quickly improved their skills up to Love Systems instructor level.

To find out more, click here:

Project Rockstar 2009

Censorship, Threats, The Attraction Forums

A while ago there was a thread on The Attraction Forums (the main free forum for dating advice, finding a wingman, Q&A, etc., on the internet) with reviews of a certain dating science instructor.

A bunch of reviews criticized that instructor for not performing "demos" -- where the instructor actually picks up women in front of you, using the same techniques he's teaching you.

One of my very first posts on this blog 2.5 years ago was about the importance of doing demos. I won't repeat the whole post here, but I think demos are really important for at least two reasons:

• Demos provide some evidence and proof that the system actually works
• Demos give clients something to model. Just like in any field. Recipe books are great, but I became a much better cook just from watching my ex-girlfriend.
  

(Demos are a crucial part of the Love Systems Bootcamp as well as the Day Game Workshop. Any Love Systems instructor who refused to do demos would likely be sent home by the lead instructor of the program).

Anyway, that sparked a lot of discussion over whether demos were truly necessary to teach someone "game" and whether "I have a girlfriend" is an excuse not to do demos.

That was pretty surprising to me that there was even a debate. So I also posted that, while I had absolutely no idea whether the person in question does demos or not, the idea that you couldn't approach, generate attraction, etc., because you have a girlfriend is ludicrous. Or if it does prevent you from doing demos, then you shouldn't teach. It would be like a porn star / actress just wanting to do dialogue but not have sex, because they have a significant other. Come on.

That seems to have struck a nerve, since that instructor's organization has been emailing me pretty regularly complaining about this and making threats. Apparently, I am supposed to censor the Love Systems instructors and moderators who have also posted in that thread. Despite the fact that no one has said anything about whether that instructor does demos or not. (He's told me he actually does and that the customer reviews are wrong. I have no reason to believe or disbelieve either side on this.)

Obviously that's not going to happen. But what's funny is that this isn't Joe off the street. These are people who promote themselves as experts in social dynamics, whose way of asking for someone to do something for them alienates the hell out of them and ensures that there's no chance their request will be met. And it's not because they are competitors -- plenty of our competitors have no problem getting what they need from Love Systems, and we even invite the best of them to things like the annual Super Conference. (2009: Las Vegas, October 8-12)

Anyway, we all had a good laugh about the situation, but that's not the point of this post. It got me thinking about emotions and logic.

Most guys know that you can't logic a woman into bed, and that attraction (for example) is an emotional process, not a logical one. Logic enters into it, but is usually for backwards rationalization. (I wrote about this a bit on my how to get your ex-girlfriend back post)

But it also applies to men.

Threats are a great example. Threats may, logically, provoke a desired response. A guy comes up to you with a gun, and unless you're Cajun, you're likely to comply.

(Though the only time I've ever been threatened with a gun, I was in Paris with a friend. We were wandering around and ended up in the wrong area and this guy came up to use holding a gun under his jacket. She didn't speak French, so I decided to reframe my role from "mugging victim" to "translator". I translated to her his threat to give him her money, and translated back that she says she doesn't have any money but she does at her hotel. And so on, until the situation just got so ludicrous he stormed off. Then again, I was 22 at the time and today I'd probably just say fuck it, you can have my $50).

But no one wants to be threatened. I've seen so many people make decisions that, logically, were the wrong way to go, because they didn't want to kowtow to threats. I can't count the number of times I've been prepared to do someone a favor or help them out until they started threatening me with consequences if I don't.

It's almost always the wrong way to get something from someone. The only time to use threats is when you are sure you will follow through on them, the issue in question is more important than your future relationship with them, and the end result is more important to you than whether they comply. Like "get out of my building or I'll call the police".

Any other threat, there's only one way to deal with it -- just say "You're going to do what you're going to do." It's the same as an employee who constantly threatens to quit or a girlfriend or boyfriend who threatens to break up...I don't know of too many situations that resolve well once people start making threats, unless the other side clears them off the table first.

None of this applies to Braddock, who I happily threatened in this very blog.

Oohh! Pwned!

A post about vinegar

Been a little dark around here since I've had lots of family in town. My dad just left last night, but not before we went to a very strange Italian restaurant on Beverly Blvd called Terroni.

The first hint we were in for a fun night was the menu. Little comments all over the place like

"While substitutions may seem easy, they interfere with the delicate balance of our flavors. Please respect our menu"

and

"This dish [some seafood pasta] will not be served with Parmigiano."

(I.e., they will refuse to put parmesan on your seafood pasta even if you ask for it...I get it that you're "not supposed to" have parmesan with seafood pasta, but 20 years ago you weren't supposed to have red wine with seafood either and now apparently it's cool, so w/ever)

So, anyway, the waitress comes over with bread and some olive oil. Without thinking, I asked for balsamic:

"We actually don't service balsamic"

Umm, ok. "Are you out of balsamic?"

"No. We serve it with some salads."

"So you actually DO have balsamic in the kitchen; you have just decided that I would prefer my meal without it?"

"Like I said, we actually don't serve balsamic with bread."

Ummm...ok. I guess Terrino must be doing great during the recession, if it wants to be smarter than its customers. Some nitwit 20 year old (who thought she was a lot hotter than she was) is telling me how I will best enjoy my food.

It got me thinking about how institutions influence behavior (also a theme from The Wire, which, having now finished Season 4, is responsible for the lack of blog posts recently). If you're going to make policies and rules like that, it's almost impossible for your waiters and waitresses not to be assholes and bitches. It's about the message you send at the top. Lead by example and all that. In the old Mystery Method Corp days, I was probably a little more arrogant than I try to be now and looking back, I can see how part of that got diffused within the group.

(This doesn't apply to bus boys, who are too low on the food chain to count. Our bus boy was awesome and got us everything we asked for. Probably there's a manager's guide in there that says "we actually don't talk to bus boys").

It's too bad I wasn't paying for dinner, because I would have tipped $0.00 with these two notes:

"We actually don't serve balsamic"
"We actually don't tip"

Almost-free Mini-pickup artist / dating coach seminars in Ireland and Norway

Saturday, June 20 - Dublin, Ireland
Saturday, June 27 - Oslo, Norway

These follow up on the immensely successful mini-seminars we just did in:

Dublin - see reviews here
London - see reviews here

These are well worth checking out if you're new to Love Systems or have never been to a Love Systems bootcamp. Both last just a single day and prices are very reasonable (e.g., 30 Euros for Dublin).


Read more and reserve your spot for Dublin.

Read more and reserve your spot for Oslo.

Why did my dad give me The Wire on DVD?

How fucking annoying. I watched Season 1 on DVD. I'm now in Season 4. This is absolutely killing my productivity - hence the lack of blog posts. Normal service will resume shortly.

New bundle pack!

People keep talking about how listening the interview series makes for a great home study course. I think it's probably true, because I'm starting to see more successful field reports from guys who have been learning Love Systems this way.

So we stepped up to the plate.

BULK PACK 4:

* Vol 31 - 9 and 10 game - double length (nearly 2 hours).
* Vol 32 - Role Plays
* Vol 33 - Logistics: Taking Her Home - first interview to use the Love Systems Triad
* Vol 34 - Female Psychology
* Vol 35 - Humor
* Vol 36 - Love Systems in Everyday Life
* Vol 37 - Issues in Qualification
* Vol 38 - Handling Tests
* Vol 39 - Older Men Dating Younger Women
* Vol 40 - Turning Things Sexual

These are normally $40 each and last about an hour, or $24.99 for subscribers. But the bulk pack of 10 interviews is $290, a $110 savings.

(You can also listen to the first ten minutes of each interview free just by clicking on it)

These complement the other bulk packs nicely. (And if you get all four, you have about 55 hours of the best insight into picking up women today. If you're spending 3 hours "doing" for every hour "learning", that should take you through 220 hours of game time. If you spend 5 hours per week on your game, that's about a full year. Much better value than any other year-long program, and you have an incredible reference library at the end to support you).

In addition to the value packs we already have:


Bulk Pack 1 (Comprehensive) includes Vol 1-10

• Approaching
• Intro to Attraction
• Storytelling
• Dates
• Frame Control
• Identity
• Dealing with other guys & AMOGS
• Qualification
• Using and Creating Routines
• Phone Game

Bulk Pack 2 (Intermediate) includes Vol 11-20

• Physical Escalation and Kissing
• Seduction
• Warm Approach
• The First Five Minutes
• Taking Chances
• On Value
• The Right Way to Learn Game
• Threesomes
• Friends with Benefits
• Social Circle Game

Bulk Pack 3 (Comprehensive) includes Vol 21-30

• Advanced Winging (Being a Wingman)
  
• Damage Control
• Cold Reads
• Jealousy Plotlines
• How to be an Alpha Male
• Direct Game
• Sticking Points
• High-end Club Game
• Being in State
• Teasing
  

By the way, check out reviews of every interview volume and also our online poll to rate the best ever interview.

Does Love Systems / Magic Bullets Work Around the World?

A little while, we let Hong-Kong based Brink Magazine run an experiment. Give a copy of Magic Bullets to four residents of different nationalities. Don't show them all of endorsements and testimonials for the book - just give them the straight content. Have them go out twice a week for two weeks and report back on their results.

Here's what they found:

* Steve, 50, British: "It definitely made a huge difference, especially in my second week after reading the book. I think I was a bit nervous during the first week - trying to hold so many ideas in my head"

* Chen, 33, Local Chinese: "It took me a while to work out how to phrase this stuff in Chinese but after that the improvement was dramatic. I found stuff in there which I had been doing unconsciously before; once it became conscious it took a lot of fluke out of things."

* Franco, 29, Italian: "Stunning! My success in meeting new girls went up dramatically the first night."

* Ed, 44, American: "I was frankly skeptical at first, but after a week I found myself taking home girls who I normally would have been admiring from a distance. Also the seduction tips improved my effectiveness after I got them back to my place"

* And then they interviewed an unnamed killjoy psychologist: "I really can't approve of this. I think it's manipulation of women but I have to admit that it would probably work well. However, the section on relationships was very good, though as an orthodox therapist I don't believe in open relationships"

Hey, you can't please everyone.

Source.

How to get your ex-girlfriend back

I get a lot of emails with questions like how do I get my ex-girlfriend back or how do I get back with my ex, and so on.

So in last week's Love Systems insider, I went through the 8 golden rules of getting your ex-girlfriend back.

(The signup box for the Love Systems insider in the top left of this blog - and if this is getting reposted, Savoy's blog is at http://therealsavoy.blogspot.com. If you are signed up - it's free - but didn't get the guide to getting your ex back, then you need to add Love Systems to your whitelist).

8 Steps to Get Back Together With Your Ex

1) Is she really worth it?

Check the classic Kill Beatrice post by Hall of Fame instructor (and great PUA) Future:

Beware of the "grass is greener" trap. If she's the one who got away, well, lots of women probably got away before you got started with Love Systems. Sometimes the attraction disappears if the girl who rejected you before now wants you...will you still want her?

If that's the case, stay away. I'm not here to preach, but you can do a lot more damage playing on your ex-girlfriend’s emotions than you could flirting with someone new.



2) Are you worried that your ex-girlfriend was “as good as you’re going to get”?

If you feel that way, it'll be harder to get her back (or keep her).

Back when I used to do phone consultations, I saw this way too often. A client would take my advice on how to get her back but ignore the inner game stuff necessary to keep her. I’m told from other pick up artist instructors (who do phone consultations) that this still happens.

I can’t solve inner game issues in a few paragraphs – we have a highly popular and well reviewed all-day seminar for that, led by the experts - Love Systems Inner Game.

Anyway, regardless of how amazing she was, you can date women who are just as interesting. You got her, right? Why can’t you get someone of equal quality again?

Unless you are 100% convinced (really convinced…not faking it) that you can attract women at and above her level, you WILL lose her.

This is some of the stuff I go into the Relationship Management Home Study Course. Click on that link for some free videos as well.



3) Minimize contact with her for a few months.

Let me list a few things that are unattractive to most women:

• Big, fat, hairy beer bellies
• Their best friend’s kid brother who follows them around like a puppy dog
• Adult diapers
• The ex-boyfriend who hangs around everywhere and wants her back

If you want her back, it will show. You need some distance. Even if you're being cool.

E.g., you and her coincidentally end up at the same party. Even if you didn't follow her there or get in her way, she may still think it's "weird" that you're there ("weird" is like "creepy" - it's an ambiguously-defined word women use that sticks - it's really hard to come back from). Maybe she thinks you're obsessed, or stalking. Maybe she gets upset because your very presence is "cockblocking" her (even if you don't care). And so on.

Even if it’s completely illogical. At Love Systems (formerly the Mystery Method Corp of pickup artists), it’s about emotion, not logic.



4) If you’re in her social circle…

Maybe you know a lot of the same people and you’re in the same extended social circle.

In that case, minimize your time together without making it seem like you’re going out of your way to avoid her.

Don’t talk about her. If you have to, be positive and then change the subject. This goes double for her dating life. It goes triple for the circumstances surrounding your breakup or anything about your relationship with her.

Don’t show off. Don’t go out of your way to bring other women around her or mutual friends. Live your life and do what you’d normally do, but err on the side of caution.

Yes, Pre-selection (being attractive to other women) is one of the key things that attract especially beautiful women. But you don’t want her to feel that you are pre-selected bit by bit. When you re-initiate in a few months (see below), you want it to be a big bang.

You want her wondering, “who is this guy I let get away?”



5) Change

Something about you should change before you re-initiate contact.

(We’ll get to the biggest change you need to make, next)

Whether it’s a new job, a new hobby, a change to your dress style, something – and it need only be one thing – should change.

This is a great opportunity to improve your identity - which is a great tool for attracting women, especially within your social circle.

Since women are attracted first and then figure out the “reasons” later, you want to make it as easy as possible for women to find reasons to be interested in you, once you’ve hit some attraction spikes.

If this concept is new to you, I really think you could benefit from reading my book, Magic Bullets, which is full of ready-to-use techniques like this (and has free chapters on that link)

These “reasons” can be arbitrary. I’ve had women insist…INSIST that they slept with me because I’m a Libra and Libras are so balanced and in touch with themselves. Or because I drink gin. Or because I have “nice eyes”.

They even believe it at the time. In reality, they slept with me because I ran them through the Love Systems Triad Model (from the Routines Manual Vol 2) which made them FEEL that they wanted me. Only afterwards did they look for reasons.

So you need to help her out with some kind of arbitrary change so she notices something different when you re-initiate contact.

This also reinforces that you should stay away from her in the meantime. It’s hard to notice change when you’re too close. You’ll never see the grass grow by staring at it.



6) Get Better with Women in General

Yes, I know you’re still convinced you just want that one girl.

I don’t care. In fact, I won’t even believe you until you’ve shown me that you can get women who are as attractive (or more) than her, and that you still want her. Otherwise my guess is you’re rationalizing, just like a woman who sleeps with me because I’m a Libra.

But even if I did believe you, I still wouldn’t care. You still need to get better with women in general.

Think of top golfer Tiger Woods. He rarely trains for any specific golf course. He practices the fundamentals of golf – driving, putting, and so on.

Maybe before a tournament he refreshes a bit on the course, but that’s it. Tiger Woods gets better at golf; he doesn’t get better at a specific golf course.

For all of this to have an effect, you need to get better with women in general.

(Usually that means a bootcamp or one-on-one coaching. But you can also make a ton of progress using Magic Bullets with Volume 2 of the Routines Manual and sorting out any gaps with the advanced interview series.)

Learn the skills. Get experience using them. Success breeds success. Women can “smell” a man who is comfortable with beautiful women and able to keep up with them. And men who are not.

For a real-life example of this – read (on this blog) the classic field report of how a stand-offish“10” turned into a very sexual, threesome-loving dream girl, and how to seduce a runway model from the Playboy Mansion.

(It’s in two part…so when you hit the bottom of the post, there’s a thing that says click here for part II)



7) Then, and only then, re-initiate contact

When you’re ready – that is, when you are confidently and consistently attracting women who are as attractive as her or better – only then can you re-initiate contact with her from a position of strength.

Whatever you do, when you re-initiate USE THE LOVE SYSTEMS TRIAD. If you make her feel emotionally close to you but not physically (or you miss the opportunity physically because your logistics were wrong) you’ll doom yourself to yet more time in “Let’s Just Be Friends” land.

This is an especially big risk if you guys have already broken up once. The Triad is a special part of Volume 2 of the Love Systems Routines Manual.



8) Don’t mess it up again.

When you re-initiate contact with her, act like you’re in the “Dating/Undefined” category of relationships.

The Relationship Management DVDs break relationships down into 6 categories – including traditional relationships, multiple relationships, friends with benefits, etc.

Dating/Undefined is somewhat like treating every time you see her as the 2nd or 3rd date. Have that frame.

If you’re not familiar with this, learn Love Systems Relationship Management. It covers everything from how to get into every kind of relationship (one girlfriend, threesomes, multiple girlfriends, one night stands, hookups, etc.), how to manage each one, how to move between, and more. It’s also the only place where we released “the model” – how you can predict when and how your girlfriend might cheat and also what you can do about it (it’s not what you think):

It’s gone wrong once. Don’t let it go wrong again.

And good luck.

The Empire Strikes Back

In response to this:

http://www.braddocksblog.com/2009/05/braddock-trying-to-tell-savoy-he-changed-the-seminar-room-location/

Please let me introduce:

"What will happen the NEXT time Braddock tries to change the seminar location"

The Evil Empire

Well, I've heard Love Systems called the Evil Empire before, but I've never personally been compared to Darth Vader.

Until now.

http://www.braddocksblog.com/2009/05/braddock-trying-to-tell-savoy-he-changed-the-seminar-room-location/

Braddock, it's on. See my response tomorrow.

Threesomes, Runway Models, and the power of frames (part II)

Please click here to read part I. This post won't make any sense without it.

(Continued)

I invited a bunch of my friends (ah, the joy of mass text messages) to a bustling outdoor bar/café that would have great social energy, drinks, and food. (i.e., no excuses to have to go somewhere else). I invited mostly girls, but also brought one of the students from the private advanced bootcamp along so he could see how things should look.

One of the girls who showed up was Karen, who I hadn’t seen in six months. I must have texted her 10 times in the past six months with no response. A guy who doesn’t have girls might have gotten frustrated or deleted her number. To me, it didn’t matter. I still thought she was cool, even if she was busy or not answering, and it doesn’t cost me anything to keep inviting her. So when she showed up, there was no “edge” – no under the surface wondering why she hadn’t been responding before. I was just happy to have her as part of my night and enjoy the moment without worrying about the past or the future. That’s what guys who have women do.

Lara was still the woman I was interested in. Karen and I had hooked up enough times before, I could take it or leave it. Whenever I am in a group situation with my friends and a woman I am interested in, I follow the same pattern (WRITE THIS DOWN)

• Put the girl you’re interested in beside you
• All the touching goes to her (ideally under the table)
• All the conversation goes to everyone else

Lara was resisting my under the table touching at first. When did she start reciprocating? About five minutes after she realized that I’d hooked up with both of the other women at the table. Don’t confuse this with Pre-selection. Pre-selection is an attraction switch – one of the eight revealed in Magic Bullets – but I was well past Attraction at this point. No, what this conveyed was that I was a guy who had women in my life and that I “get it”.

I wasn’t jealous or controlling with the girls I’ve hooked up with. I just enjoyed their company, and them mine. Even though Karen and I were having boiling sexual tension, both of the other women looked on in approval as Lara and I started connecting physically.

After a while of that, I sealed the deal when I leaned in to whisper in her ear:

Me: What kind of women are you attracted to? [I’d already established that she has hooked up with women in the past]
Lara: [Lists some qualities]
Me: What do you think of Karen?
Lara: She’s beautiful…etc.
Me: Well, no promises, but I’ll see if I can convince her to join us when we go home later

I want to make this clear – up to this point we’d never kissed, never really talked about sex, and certainly never discussed going home and having sex that night. But when she passively accepted the frame that I set with the last line above, the question changed from “where is this going tonight?” to “will this be a regular hookup tonight or will it be a threesome”?

It’s similar – but far more effective – to when I used to joke around with women on dates about whether the night was going to end with us having sex once or twice. Either choice I win, and even said jokingly, as long as she doesn’t object, it helps establish the frame.

[This "joking" to introduce sexual themes is covered in more detail with more examples by superstars Braddock and Kisser in their interview on Sexualization]

It seems like a little thing, but it’s not. As I always emphasize when I teach, the dividing line between a woman sleeping with you or not sleeping with you can be exceedingly narrow. Lara was fully intending to have a drink with me, flirt, maybe kiss a bit, but leave it at that. This changed the game.

Once I’d told Lara that I’d try to get Karen home with us, I fortified that frame a couple of times with “no promises, but I’ll see what I can do”. And then of course I started shifting my attention to Karen. Who had seen Lara clearly into me and me responding, etc. After I had made out with her, Karen said the punchline that is the reason why I wrote this article in the first place:

“I love you because you’re such a whore”

I don’t know if it was just because I’d gone from heavy touching with Lara to making out with her – without embarrassment – or because I’d hooked up with her friends (and been discreet enough never to mention it to her…she found out from them, not me), or just because I was conveying that attitude, but it was interesting because Karen changed at that moment.

Gone was the woman who had been more or less typical with me up to that point. Now she was openly talking her sexual experiences, letting me touch her in public in ways that I had had to struggle to do in private before, etc., etc. It’s not that Karen changed. It’s that in her mind, I’d changed. I’d gone from a cool, fun, but normal guy in her mind to a guy that has women. Who "gets it".

• Guys who have women in their life are safe. They won’t freak out when a woman doesn’t call back or has to cancel.
• Guys who have women in their life aren’t jealous or controlling,.
• Guy who have women in their life aren’t judgmental. They understand that women are complex and multi-dimensional and can’t simply be labeled virgins or whores.

Closing the deal from that point on was just basic logistical mechanics.

Look, I’m going to be straight with you here. You’re not going to be having threesomes with two 10s as soon as you read Magic Bullets and the Love Systems Routines Manual (though some of the sexualization routines in Volume 2 are pretty intense). You will need to practice, and it will take some time to integrate it all. A bootcamp is a giant-ass shortcut to getting good instantly, but you're still going to have to practice some.

But what I will say is this: There’s nothing in this particular pickup that isn't taught at a bootcamp. In fact, I'd even say that there's nothing in this pickup that couldn't have been pieced together from a combination of Magic Bullets, both Routines Manuals, and a couple of interview series volumes to cover any sticking points or advanced subjects on the way.

So if you’re sitting around wanting to get better with women – at least meet me halfway. Get ahold of the basic information you need to succeed. Here are the key resources:


Love Systems Bootcamps - our live training

Magic Bullets - learn the foundational pickup artist (PUA) skills

Love Systems Routines Manual (Vol 1) - from pick up lines to seduction, never run out of things to say

Love Systems Routines Manual (Vol 2) - even better than the original with more bonuses including the Love Systems Triad.

Magic Audio Pills - use these to solve specific problems or to grow your skills in a specific area

Threesomes, Runway Models, and the power of frames (part I)

Some of this was first published in the LSi (Love Systems insider) a few months ago. Tomorrow's LSi refers to it, so I thought I'd put a cleaned up version of it here.

Women have different rules for men who “get it” – men who have women in their life - than they do for men who don’t.

In other words, men who understand women get to play by a different set of rules. My friend TD called this the “secret society” -- but it’s not a secret if you know what to look for. Men in this club don’t take any one conversation with an individual woman too seriously, don’t put women on a pedestal and hold them to expectations of nun-like purity, and aren’t judgmental to women who enjoy their sexuality. Women will let such men get away with things they'd never find acceptable in other guys – or in the same guy before he “got it”.

I’ll explain with an example – one that also lends itself to tangents about picking up 9s and 10s, and threesomes. So, hold on tight.

A few years ago, a friend introduced me to “Karen”, then one of the top up-and-coming fashion designers in Los Angeles. At the time, I was only just starting to piece together the secrets of meeting an dating beautiful women - the techniques that I later revealed in my book Magic Bullets and now form the basis for Love Systems’ teaching worldwide. But, with some difficulty, I was able to date and then seduce her. She might even have been my first “10”.

During this time, Karen’s behavior was pretty typical of a young beautiful woman dating an average guy. She resisted my advances at first and made me work. She didn’t sleep with me right away. She didn’t seem especially sexual (without being a prude). She claimed to have no interest in threesomes and told me she’d only been with six men in her life. She was… "normal”. I did finally close the deal on the third date and we dated for a while after that, but because we both traveled all the time, we never got to see each other and ended up as casual friends.

(Which actually worked out great, because hot fashion designers have hot friends and hot models they work with. Using a precursor to the literally game-changing techniques designed by Mr. M and Braddock in their Social Circle Mastery program, I worked my way into a great position in her social circle and have hooked up with a few of her friends – we’ll get to why this is important in a moment)

Fast forward to last weekend. I was teaching an advanced invitation-only bootcamp at the Playboy Mansion. The main event was this big fashion show, and a student and I interrupted our debrief to watch. We saw the most unreal girl walk the runway – the 2nd most beautiful woman I’ve ever met in Los Angeles. Tall, perfect body, beautiful face, perfect skin (I’m a sucker for perfect skin) and that long soft straight blonde hair I love so much. And a walk that conveyed complete confidence and intense sexuality. She was not only a 10, she defined 10s. We’ll call her Lara.

One of the guys wanted me to pick her up. I wanted me to pick her up. I could feel the whole Love Systems community wanting me to pick her up. OK, maybe that’s going too far. Let’s just say that the vodka from the Playboy Mansion open bar also wanted me to pick her up. But I did relish the challenge - captivating the obvious star runway model in the center of the Playboy Mansion grounds surrounded by cameras and…because there’s no other way to put it…hordes of horny dudes. Those guys did NOT want me to pick her up.

The mechanics of the pickup actually weren’t all that different from any of the countless pickups that happen every night around the world using the Magic Bullets model. Since most readers are already familiar with these I won't waste time on the easy stuff; I'll just hit some of the twists and turns.

First off, I don’t like to approach the “star of the show” head-on. An actress signing autographs, a model getting photographed, a singer coming off-stage, these women are already surrounded with men sucking up to them.

This is why when I occasionally do private programs on how to pick up and date a porn star, guys are usually surprised when I tell them to stay AWAY from official events, autographing signings, etc. There are MUCH better places to meet them, where the balance of power is a bit more in your favor.

But at the Mansion, there wasn't going to be a second chance. So the next best course was to "rebound" into a conversation with her. I started talking to two guys who among the many surrounding her. And then when the moment was right (she just finished a conversation), I pivoted to her as if I’d been arguing with these two guys about something, and jumped straight into a shortened version of LBD’s text message breakup opinion opener from the Love Systems Routines Manual.

Yes, the humble opinion opener – which I still use.

(It's funny - I sometimes get emails from people who ask me for the "secret" routines that I use. When we want a routine, we go the same places everyone else does - the Love Systems Routines Manual Volume 1 and the Love Systems Routines Manual Volume 2).

If you’ve read Magic Bullets, you know what came next. I know I wouldn’t have much time, and had to race to at least get to the Comfort phase of the 6-step Emotional Progression Model. This meant getting quickly through the Transition, Attraction, and Qualification. It wasn’t easy, because guys were interrupting us every 2.4 seconds and when she started leaning in to me to show she was attracted, one of her girlfriends came over to “rescue” her. Meanwhile, one of her manager people was trying to move her to somewhere else she supposedly needed to be.

Taking her home was going to mean work, if it was even possible, and I had workshop guys to get back to. So I got her phone number, arranged to have a drink with her the next night, and left.

Here’s where the lessons come in. A guy who didn’t “get it” – who took every women seriously when he first met her, who didn’t understand how female psychology and sexual decision-making worked would have taken her on a traditional date, hoping to get somewhere by the end of the night. No problem with dates – I use them when I don’t have a better option – but I knew I only had one shot with her (they’d only brought her in from New York for the show) and wanted to seal the deal in the one night I knew we’d have together.

Click here for part II.

CLASSIC POST: "Kill Beatrice"

Love Systems Hall of Fame member and great pick up artist (PUA) Future contributed this to the Love Systems insider (LSi) a couple of years ago. It's referenced in this coming week's LSi so seemed worthwhile to republish it here.

Beatricide

Let's talk about love. One of the most important pieces of literature in the world is a love poem. When Dante Alighieri wrote The Divine Comedy, his intent was to show the journey of a wicked soul transformed by the power of love for a beautiful woman. In Dante's case, the woman was named Beatrice. He met her once when he was nine years old and again when he was eighteen. From his infatuation came one of the most beautiful poems ever recorded. And he never got the girl.

We've all been there, I think, although most of us aren't compelled to write epic poetry in the wake of a pretty girl's passing. Too many of us fall sway to the halo effect: she arouses me, and thus can do no wrong! It is a position born from loneliness, from inexperience, from fear.

If you've been to The Attraction Forums to get dating advice or taken a Love Systems bootcamp, you know it's axiomatic to eschew attraction to a single woman. When a student asks me how to get This Specific Girl in a phone consultation, I ask him to prepare a new question. Before you can become attractive to women, there is one thing you must do first: kill Beatrice.

I don't say this callously. I'm a lover. I enjoy the women I'm with. I genuinely seek to find the best in people, although they often disappoint me, as I'm sure they do you. Nevertheless, I seek the goodness in other people. When I start hitting on a woman, I really do hope she's not going to be a silly twit whose value doesn't rise beyond the surface beauty that drew me into conversation with her.

I'm not alone. Whenever we ask students at bootcamps about their plans for the future, most of them say they'd like to find That Special Girl, even if they have to seduce a thousand young ladies to find her.

Pause.

That needs more emphasis. You must-- must-- become a creature of options. For your own sake. Not to become a poon-hound. Until you attain a meaningful, confident, consistent success with the women you desire, your own limitations will devalue the power of your love and limit your ability not only to acquire but also to keep The One.

Love Systems starts and ends with perceived options. Beautiful women are usually conditioned to be acceptably bitchy because they can get away with it. [Don't complain about this - learn how female psychology works so you can use it to your advantage]. Their options don't close off when they act poorly, so they continue to do so. Less attractive women usually learn that when they like someone, they need to treat him well. Otherwise their options are drastically limited. Pretty girls are able to set their own standards of behavior, and since the odds are good they weren't raised well, those standards typically stretch the bounds of good taste. I didn't make the rules.

Most men act like ugly girls: don't make waves, don't risk the loss, and don't treat her like merely one of your social options. Bad call. The women smell it. They feel it, like loser-water splashed all over them. They smell the underlying vibe of your every movement: I hope I don't mess this up. This neediness -- the perception that you aren't treating them like they are women, like you are a man -- is at the root of so many failed pick-ups. That girl you're pining for might even like you, in that way...

...Just a little.
Teeny.
Bit.

But in her gut she senses a sharp discord with her own feelings of inadequacy and innate discomfort: this guy likes me too much. Boom. You lost the girl.

And so we come to the so-called seduction community. We are told over and over again how bad “oneitis” is. Message boards teem with the mighty keystrokes of those who are mad-learned on the knowledge. But when you're in the middle of that emotional maelstrom, it's hard to hear WHY it's important to kill those feelings for that special, magical girl, to kill Beatrice.

Why? Because she's not special, and neither are you.
Listen to the radio. Nearly every song is a testimony to how awesome love is.
And it is.
It's an overwhelming state that inspires, confounds, and defines. Through its experience, all your other emotional potentials fall into sharp relief.

In fact, in the book Getting the Love You Want, Dr. Harville Hendrix distills the experience of love down to three core emotions:
1.) This person is highly unusual and specifically tailored to loving me.
2.) I'll never feel like this again.
3.) This feeling should last forever.

Biochemically, you are DESIGNED to react to loving emotions exactly how you do. Your emotions are NOT special.
They are, in fact, the textbook definition of common.
Plebeian.
She has loved before.
So have you.
She will again.
So will you.

No, she's not different. When I hear guys rant about how, "No, she's different, she's a sweet girl," my head starts to spin. Do a search for the triumphs of Love Systems instructors; wherever you stand on the morality if the issue, at some point the testimony of other men's wives and girlfriends has to amount to something. It's not good or bad. It just is.

Imagine the most heinous, depraved, "slutty" thing you've seen or conceived. Now, know this: you know someone who's done something like that or worse. Such is the reality of modern reality. Suck it up and deal. After all, you're probably a normal, decent person, and all that deviance and judgment you just threw out in our imaginary situation there is NOTHING compared to the festival of sin that is your daily, hourly sexual fantasy life. What separates your thoughts from your actions? Sadly, it's probably an issue of will and game (and for some of you, of course, the law).

No one is actually that special. But everyone is that special. That one girl isn't worth a damn because everyone has a nugget of gold lodged somewhere in their chest. Everyone has some hidden glory. Sometimes it's hidden very deeply. But there truly are a vast number of interesting, beautiful women, despite their minority status. In that same regard, no single girl is all you've made her up to be. Not one. None. No one. Some of you are reading this and thinking about This One Girl You Know. Seriously, not even her. EVEN IF EVERYTHING YOU SAY ABOUT HER IS TRUE! THERE IS A GIRL WHO IS BETTER-LOOKING, SMARTER, FUNNIER, AND NICER. YOU JUST HAVEN'T MET HER YET. That glorious sun goddess is still just another glorious sun goddess. We live on a planet with 6,200,000,000 human beings. And women are in the majority. Seriously, she's not that special.

And that's why you have to kill Beatrice. That muse is only holding you back because what she's really doing, what she's really, really accomplishing, is holding you back from being your true, glorious self. Find her seventy thousand superior counterparts. Then return.

With understanding.

Experience and willingness to learn breed perspective. When you don't accrue a lot of experience with girls, it's easy to get sidetracked by illusions, to forget how mortal these divine creatures are. Then, you can find a girl you want, a girl you like, a girl you can love. And you will not love her out of habit. You will not love her because she's just the prettiest girl you've ever been with. You will love her because she's the best girl to receive your love. And that statement means something because you have allowed other, female things to happen to you!

Get more from Future on The Attraction Forums (especially the classic posts) and:

* Future on Storytelling
* Future on Dates
* Future on Identity
* Future on Other Guys, Obstacles, and AMOGs
* Future on Value

Official Love Systems Brett Favre Statement

I was keeping this quiet for a while because I didn't want it to get leaked early. But we're ready to officially announce.

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

"Retired" football quarterback Brett Favre joins leading dating school Love Systems


Hattiesburg, MS -- May 6, 2009 -- Retired QB Brett Favre ended weeks months years of recurring self-indulgent drama about whether or not he is retiring with a surprise announcement. He is joining Love Systems, the international dating school.

"I'm very alpha," said Favre.

Favre's 2009-10 bootcamp schedule is expected to prominently feature those cities where he is especially popular. Those appear to be the same cities whose NFL teams were lucky enough to play against Favre in crucial games over the past decade.

Favre pointed out the similarities between Love Systems and professional football:

"It's the same thing. Love Systems has the three-second rule right? See a woman, approach her within three seconds. It's the same with dropping back as the QB. I got three seconds to scan the field, see what the defense is expecting me to do and where the double coverage trap is. And then I usually do exactly that."

Asked why Favre would choose to repeatedly and predictably throw into double coverage with the game on the line, Everett (Every) Hack jumped in to defend Favre:

"He's a gunslinger and he's just having fun out there."

According to Favre, his married status (he is married to his childhood sweetheart Deanna Favre) won't pose a problem:

"Love Systems instructors are pretty much the only guys who do demos anyway [where an instructor both proves and demonstrates the system on beautiful women selected by clients]. I might just skip those like I've skipped every off-season workout my entire career."

"I bring something new to the table," continued Favre in a tearful press conference, the 14th of his career. "Not just the designer chin stubble or the almost homo-erotic man-crush from Peter King. See, even the best Love Systems instructors aren't guaranteed to get 5-6 full pickups every Sunday afternoon, but put me in a big game and I'm good for a half-dozen pick offs. Pick ups, pick offs, it's all the same thing. I'm kind of a POA then. Except I'm a specialist That makes me a POS."

In related news, Love Systems has announced that it is updating the newly-released Love Systems Routines Manual Volume 2(bigger, longer, and uncut) to add some of Brett's signature routines, including "I'm retiring", "For real, I'm retiring. End of story", "I'm not coming back", "NO!", and of course: "I'm coming back"


For information: http://www.lovesystems.com or
Contact: media@lovesystems.com
Phone: 323-836-0150

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Brett Favre. Really.

So apparently Brett Favre might be coming back.

(If you don't know who Brett Favre is, move on. You haven't missed anything since 1997)

Seeing as "will Brett unretire" is now the annual event replacing years of "will Brett retire", I'll just recycle this old post, without the contest.

And, done.

Well not quite. On another thought, does anyone else think Peter King sounds like a jilted lover when he talks about Brett these days?

Come on in, make yourself at home

So instead of posting yesterday, I gave the blog a facelift. Actually, I got someone else to do it. But that counts.

A couple of new features on the left hand side - there's a video bar that displays four videos from the Love Systems YouTube channel. I'm not sure how it decides which videos to show, so we'll keep an eye out if they change over time.

And below that is a list of tags associated with different blog posts. Since I have a chaotic way of tagging my posts, I'm not sure if this will actually help anyone, but I had all this white space down the left-hand margin and figured I may as well use it.

Suggestions welcome. I didnt really have time to delve in the 3,483,000 blogger apps you can put on this.

Braddock PUA on College Game

Most of top Love Systems (formerly Mystery Method) instructors have their own blogs. I really wanted this, since the point of Love Systems is that any Love Systems lead instructor could easily be running their own pickup school, so there's a ton these guys have to contribute.

Recently, I've been checking out what Braddock is up to on his blog - he's releasing a piece by piece video series that breaks down his secrets being a PUA (pick up artist) in college. It's an 8-part series and he's already up to part 6.

I'm a long, long way away from college - and I had zero success with women when I was there.

So seeing one of the top dating coaches in the world like Braddock apply the core Love Systems approach from my book, Magic Bullets, to the college dating scene is..inspiring. (Frightening?) Braddock and I got to spend a lot of time with in New York when we were getting ready for the Tyra Banks show and he was telling about how he's been linking the Magic Bullets PUA secrets to his own Social Circle Mastery program to make killer college game material... and seeing it on video, I'm even more of a believer.

So I officially blame Braddock's videos for killing my streak. I'd posted every day since April 8. Time to start a new one.

News from Love Systems Europe

So the almost-free mini-seminar in Dublin last weekend went so well that we're going to do two things:

1) Come back to Dublin on June 20th
2) Roll out a whole set of mini-seminars in Europe

Love Systems instructors 5.0 and Daxx led the almost-free mini-seminar last weekend and they'll be at some of the others as well. The next Dublin will also include fellow UK-based Love Systems instructor Keychain, so if you've read his bio you know it's definitely worth coming back to.

Upcoming mini-seminars in Europe:

• May 15, London - view description and reserve your spot

• June 20th, Dublin

• June 27th, Oslo (and if you can read Norwiegan check out this article on Love Systems PUAs in Norway - including pics of Soul and Keychain)

Here's what people are saying about the last mini-seminar...

On The Attraction Forums (the largest dating advice forum for men):

Fantastic talk lads! I was able to put a bunch of the simplest things they talked about into action straight away (like about social proofing the whole room etc etc). Also after listening to Daxx I went out the next day and got my teeth laser whitened. Best decision ever! I was constantly getting opened by girls at the bar and in the smoking area the next day about them.
Now all I have to do is write my first lay report, I love this game...

-Naoise

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Thanks for coming guys.
That was one very informative, expert and down to earth talk from two very cool people.
In particular; thanks to you both for sharing a little about your own stories and the hard work it took to get to where you are - that was inspiring.
Everyone has different reasons for getting into this but I thought it was interesting and cool that two guys I'd never met, from another country, had so much to say about stuff that any guy, from anywhere in the world (well, almost anywhere :-) ) could easily relate to.
That's not to say that the nitty gritty detail on what has really turned into a learnable science wasn't a great part of it - it was. Suffice it to say, it was an eye opener :-)
Come back to Dublin soon - you will be welcomed!
It's great to have a Love Systems presence here - we've been left out for too long!

- Goose

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Yep, good talk, informative and entertaining too. Daxx and 5.0 were great.

Analysis of blow-outs and day game were pretty good but I always thought direct approach and mentioning looks was a no-no especially off the bat but these guys made it make sense in those particular scenarios. Hearing about actual experiences and how techniques had been put into practise helps to visualise success. And I love that analogy about dodging "chuggers(?)" in the street selling stuff, never thought about it that way. Ordered some of that Dr George's teeth whitening stuff too already! It'll force me to smile more!

Looking fwd to the next Dublin talk.

-Melaton

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Great talk guys!

Very intense in such a short space of time but its obvious you knew your shit
and explained everything really well..

The direct game tips were great, field tested today and they work brilliantly

On the London Seduction Society:

The talk itself was money. Top notch.All killer content - no filler.

Very, very impressive indeed and there were a couple of genuinely new ideas that were new to me too. There I was thinking I knew it all and I had done it all 

Probably one of the best such talks I have honestly been at in years. Everyone that was there certainly echoed similar sentiments, as it compared very favourably indeed to say RSDs "talks" which are just advertising pitches masquerading as talks, that seem to be composed mainly of regurgitated self-help material. Whoops that sounded harsh.I digress....

Having some cool London lads give a talk is always preferable to a couple of Yanks.
Some of the lads that were there said that they found they could relate much more to Daxx and 5.0 than say a couple of American poo-ahs, who usually speak in entirely different slang and are unaware of subtle cultural differences in this part of the world so the lads in attendance derived a lot more benefit.

Nice one, top one, get sorted.

Catch these two if you ever have the opportunity to do so, as I am sure you will be hearing great things about them in the future.

Juiceterry

On IrishSeduction.com:

I just have to say that I was totally impressed with Daxx and 5.0. I was only going to stay at the talk for about 30mins as I got stitches in my head from a wall climbing accident and I am in bits. But the guys where so good I stayed for the whole thing!

Now I have heard almost everyone else’s usual lecture including the American Love systems but I think its cus the English are allot like us but they where totally on the ball. They totally nailed how to make this stuff actually work. On top of that they are junior instructors, I mean if that’s the junior guys what the hell are the top dogs like!

To cover I loved the fact they talked about how to properly Wing which is a fundamental basic and I had this as a major topic in the old lair but also they covered Social game perfectly. Funny thing is it was completely like the talk I gave in Prague last weekend! So as the cats out the bag I might as well post it in the next couple of days.

But to end they covered everything you needed to know in 4 hours for 20euro. Crazy?!?!

But for like 20euro they where bloody great. I am talking value for money here! I was at the Jeffy talk last year and all he went on about was RSD marketing BS for the whole thing.

Stealth

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Did you say something similar to this at the actual Love Systems talk? I remember someone up the front going on a bit of rant of gratitude! I liked the talk aswell especially the stuff regarding Social Circle Mastery.

Tickler

The Myth of Natural Game (or "How I learned to stop worrying and love systems")

I don't tend to read a lot of online seduction stuff - we've got the best pick up artists (PUAs) in the world at our disposal. We get a lot more out of being in the field, keeping up with scientific research, or sharing our breakthroughs internally than we get out of reading watered-down imitations of Love Systems.

But one site I do try to keep up with is the Seduction Chronicles. The guy who runs it isn't himself a dating coach and doesn't pretend to be. But he's been around a long time, knows what's what, and isn't afraid to speak the truth.

I really enjoyed yesterday's post on the myth of natural game.

It's kind of like saying the emperor has no clothes. I like a guy who calls them as he sees them, damn the consequences. (OK, it's annoying when he criticizes us, but it's often deserved and constructive criticism makes us better).

There's a Love Systems instructor by the name of LBD (he had a different name in The Game but I forget what it was and he's in Iraq right now so I can't ask him) who also calls them as he sees them. His thoughts on "natural game" are also pretty interesting:

Click here for LBD on "natural game"

How to pick up when you're celebrating your buddy's wedding

So FHMonline called and asked for an article about bachelor parties and meeting women.

I like writing my FHM column, so I try to follow their suggestions even when...well, there's no way around it. Your buddy's bachelor party is kind of his night. You can get laid the other 364 days of the year. I thought the guy's role on the bachelor party is to get the man of the hour ridiculously and absurdly drunk.

Like we told my friend Jesse at his bachelor party ten years ago (and I've been repeating ever since) - "if you're not sick by the end of the night it's because we weren't trying hard enough".

I've been making this a specialty of mine for years now. My old college roommate insisted that I fly to his wedding halfway around the world because he was concerned his local friends wouldn't make it the night of debauched excess that he had in mind.

(Now that's almost as much of a job as picking up women for a living)

Anyway, I took a shot, because I like FHM and there's good stuff on FHMOnline.

So here's the link to the guide to picking up women at a bachelor party. It'll be pretty basic for guys familiar with Love Systems already. The reason I link to it is...the pictures that they put with my article.

Seriously. There's a stripper who has either been hosed down or is wearing WAY too much oil. A dude with crazy sunglasses on a mountain. A pool at night (OK, that one fits).

And most perplexing of all - a random bowl of popcorn.

FAQ: Love Systems Routines Manual Volume 2

We've been getting a lot of questions about the Love Systems Routines Manual Volume 2 and by extension to the original Love Systems Routines Manual Thread.

So we started a thread on the dating advice Attraction Forums to handle them. Ask any questions there.

We should be releasing the audio from at least one of the free mini-seminar / conference calls later this week, stay tuned. It's about an hour and a half of PUA The Don and I answering questions about dating advice, pick up lines, sexualization, physical escalation, and so on. We got a lot of great feedback from the call and requests for the MP3 recording, so we'll get to it as soon as can.

Happy Tuesday, etc...

Getting Started with Love Systems

With all of the media attention and interest in Love Systems, a lot of new guys are showing up. If you're one of them, welcome.

By the way, "Love Systems" and "Dating Science" refer to using social dynamics and female psychology to pick up, date, or seduce beautiful women.

It's associated with pick up artists or "PUAs" but Love Systems can be used for anything from having one night stands every night to dating multiple women to building long-term relationships.

All that's limited is that the techniques must be focused specifically on exceptionally beautiful women and they must work for most any man, regardless of looks or money.

(Aren't you glad you can attract any woman with the right things to say? Us guys are a bit more superficial...)

Anyway, all of the Love Systems resources out there can be a bit overwhelming. So here's the The First Three Steps to Get Started.

1. Sign up for the Love Systems insider (LSi) - free Love Systems pickup and dating tips for men, delivered straight to your inbox. Free. There's a signup box in the top left-hand corner of the Real Savoy Blog.

2. The "bible" for seduction and dating science these days is a downloadable eBook called Magic Bullets. You don't have to buy it right away (though you will want to soon). But definitely download the free chapters (about halfway down the Magic Bullets page) since those add up to about the first quarter of the book and really get you started, no matter what approach you eventually want to use.

(The Game, by Neil Strauss, is a popular book about Pickup Artists, but it's not a how-to manual. Besides, it was written almost six years ago and most of the most powerful discoveries in seduction and dating science have come in the past couple years).

3. Watch some of the world's top guys in action on video so you have an idea how picking up beautiful women looks in the real world as opposed to movies. I recommend:

* Keys to the VIP
* PUA Pickup Videos

Do these things and all of the mass of information that's out there will start to at least be understandable. And then you can get going on enjoying your new life full of beautiful women.

Have you studied Love Systems and are now in a long-term relationship?

We've had a media inquiry from a major print news outlet who wants to do a story on Love Systems, and guys we've trained who use their new skills to be now living with or married to the girl of their dreams.

We'll make it worth your while. Email me (don't reply in comments).

Love Systems / Boston Globe Controversy

Yesterday, we released the official Love Systems response to the Boston Globe.

Now, senior dating coach and PUA Chris Sheppard (aka "Tenmagnet") steps in.

Tenmagnet goes point by point through the Boston Globe article, and covers the Love Systems / Tyra Banks situation. It's a good read.

Love Systems Responds to the Boston Globe

Are you “horrified” that Love Systems works?

It’s a serious question. Top Boston Globe journalist Meredith Goldstein is horrified.

See, Ms. Goldstein sat in a Love Systems bootcamp led by star instructors Braddock and Mr M.

(FYI, a bootcamp is where you spend three days and two nights in a small group with top Love Systems instructors to pick up and date beautiful women. They do live demonstrations at bars and clubs that you can see and hear and then they watch everything you do and fix your mistakes until you’re succeeding).


Here are some quotes from her article (I link to the full report at the end):

"I was horrified that … the methods worked”

Horrified? The New York Times-owned newspaper that covers Iraq, global warming, and the financial crises is HORRIFIED by Love Systems? Well, Ms. Goldstein, why would that be?

“The men I interviewed spoke of wanting power in social situations”

Gasp! No!

Is it true? Do you want more power in social situations? Is Love Systems ruining society by giving you the power to succeed with women?

• Do you want the power to CHOOSE who you date instead of waiting for someone (usually not the girl you wanted) to show interest in you?

• Do you want the power to approach any woman in any situation to explore a romantic or sexual interest?

• Every women’s magazine is full of dating tips and advice. (Women teaching this to other women is fine. Men teaching this to other men is horrifying.) Do you want to have the same social power women do?

• Do you want to know what women ACTUALLY respond to, or is everything going just fine doing what women SAY they respond to?

Skip the trial; Love Systems is guilty. We confess. We give men more power in social situations.

But you know what?

I think the Boston Globe and Ms. Goldstein are bothered by something on a much deeper level. Quoting her article:

Lots of people [learn Love Systems]. Normal people. The guys who attended the seminar in Boston were unsettlingly normal, men you probably know or work with. Most were 30-somethings in business jobs. They weren't ugly. They seemed nice enough.

Read between the lines. "Nice guys" aren’t supposed to be seducers.

If "nice guys" are out dating and attracting beautiful women, they won’t have as much time to be at their beck and call.

"Nice guys" should give lots of compliments and attention but bow out gracefully when a celebrity or a “natural” shows up.

"Nice guys" should be the shoulder to cry on. The platonic date when her lover is busy. The owner of the credit card that pays for her fun.


Well screw that, and screw that agenda.

Love Systems (formerly Mystery Method Corp) is going to keep on doing exactly what we’re doing, because it’s right and we’re proud of it.

Starting today.

We’ve rushed up the delivery of Volume 2 of the Love Systems Routines Manual as our own personal response to the Boston Globe.

Yes, routines.

Word-for-word scripts that women respond to. Scripts that the top pick up artists around the world use every day and every night. Scripts that even the Boston Globe had to admit actually work to attract beautiful women.

But before I talk more about routines, I want to ask you one more question:

What are you doing this weekend?

Are you going to live by Ms. Goldstein’s rules?

Are you going to be seen and not heard, and keep the seat warm until a Love Systems man who “gets it” comes along?

Or are you going to stand up for yourself, against all of the people who tell you no, who say you should settle, who want you out of the way?

Are you going to be a man who OWNS your desires, and has the SKILLS, KNOWLEDGE, and TOOLS to make them happen?

It’s a real question. If you want to settle, if it’s too much work, if it’s better to be failing-but-comfortable than to make a change, then there’s no point reading this. You may be a great guy, but we probably don't have all that much to say to each other right. We can’t make you want to succeed more than YOU want yourself to succeed.

Or choose Love Systems, and we’ll be with you every step of the way. It’s a journey most of us have taken, and come out the other side happy we did. All of our instructors are former bootcamp students. They once sat in your chair. Nothing is stopping you from sitting in theirs.

Maybe you have friends in the same boat, or guys who could use a chance to understand how to have beautiful women as an easy part of their life. Send them this link. Actually, send them the link to the free chapters from Magic Bullets.

Alright, so what’s this Love Systems Routines Manual Volume 2 that we released today? Most of you probably have the original Volume 1 that came out a couple years ago (that we updated last week). If so, you’ll be as excited as we are about the new one.

• All new routines. There’s no overlap between the two books. I use both.

• A guide to each routine. Every routine is introduced with expert advice about when and when not to use it, different variations, and great comebacks to use for the most common responses.

• A full chapter with new openers – never wonder “what do I say?” when you want to approach a woman, group of women, or even mixed groups (women with men with them)

• A whole chapter for each stage of the Emotional Progression Model, including all-new Attraction Routines, Qualification Routines, and Comfort Routines.

• A bonus chapter with phone and text game routines – edited by Braddock, the master of phone and text game.

• An additional chapter featuring Day Game routines – edited by Soul, the lead instructor for Love Systems Day Game.

That was the book as we originally thought of it. But then we added more…

There’s a movie quote I like; I think it’s from one of the Star Trek flicks. The captain is being pushed by his enemies and stands firm. He’s not going to back down any further or compromise any more.

“If we’re going to be damned, let’s be damned for what we really are”

The captain is right. LSRM2 (Love Systems Routines Manual, Vol 2) is not milquetoast. We don’t sugarcoat the truth.

In fact, we got so inspired by the Boston Globe and the old captain that we threw in an extra helping. Here’s what we added to LSRM2:

• The Love Systems Triad Model in its entirely. We were going to wait for Magic Bullets 2.0 for that, but not anymore. We lay out, for the first time, every step of the core Love Systems approach. And you benefit.

• Turning things sexual. All of those secret techniques like “seeding” and “sexual framing” that turns cold approaches and “let’s just be friends” into same-night lays and sexual relationships. Can you imagine what Ms. Goldstein would say about us revealing these secrets?

• Advanced Attraction game, using both “state-based” and “intrigue-based” routines, with dozens of examples of both. Off-limits for you if the Boston Globe had its way.

• How to make your own routines. Power to the people. Make your own routines with our step-by-step guides for every situation. (I think that will make their heads explode…)

Look, we can take criticism. Last week I just flew back from New York where Braddock and I were the Tyra Banks Pick Up Artist show. We got plenty of it. That’s life.

And, honestly, both the Boston Globe and Ms. Bronstein were professional during this whole process. We don't dispute their facts. Quotes weren't taken out of context.

It's the point of view that is so interesting to us, because it expresses – better than we ever could – EXACTLY why we needed to create Love Systems, while guys like us have quit careers, law school, and more to be part of it.

And exactly why we wrote LSRM2. Check it out for yourself:

http://www.lovesystems.com/routines-manual-2


Take care,

Savoy

P.S. Full Boston Globe article - here.

Subsequent update - another post about this on 4/25 here.

Love Systems Routines Conference Call

We did a private conference call a couple weeks ago about routines and how to use them with Love Systems. A few people have asked for the recording, so here it is:

http://www.lovesystems.com/product_dl/routinesqanda.mp3

Please IGNORE all of the stuff about passwords and secret links to get an early copy of Volume 2 of the Love Systems Routines Manual. Those links and passwords don't exist anymore.

On the other hand, we rushed up the official release date of LSRM2 to TODAY...for reasons that I explain in today's Love Systems insider newsletter (signup box in the top left of this page).

Anyway, hope you guys enjoy the conference call, here's the link again:

http://www.lovesystems.com/product_dl/routinesqanda.mp3

PUA Fight!

For those that like some random violence mixed in with their dating life, go ahead and live vicariously through the latest entry in Cajun's Blog.

I knew this had to happen sooner or later. But I figured it would be one of these girls' boyfriends looking for the keys to the VIP.

Tyra Banks Dating Advice Update

Last week I wrote about the Savoy and Braddock Tyra Banks Show.

Now we've heard an update from their people that the show will probably air in late May or early June. After "sweeps" anyway. They record three shows a day when they're on, so they usually have a backlog and a choice of what to air and when.

When we get more news, we'll post it on the Love Systems Tyra Banks Pickup Artist (PUA) page.

Show the Love

So a while back people on The Attraction Forums were asking about Love Systems t-shirts.

That gave us some ideas. I think we had a little bit too much fun putting this together. Feel free to send us your ideas.

I feel some kind of contest coming on....best Love Systems photo?

Braddock, Mr M, and Love Systems in the Boston Globe.

http://www.boston.com/lifestyle/relationships/articles/2009/04/15/learning_their_lines/

My favorite quote:

"I was horrified to see that the gags and methods worked"



Broken Link Updated

Framing and Frame Control as dating advice

I just wanted to throw out a quick blurb on frames, framing, and frame control. Some people say it comes from NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), others say it doesn't. I don't really care as long as it works.

Here's an example of frame control in action:

Man: Hey, how are you? [or any more elaborate openers]

Women: [Non-helpful response]

Man: You know, I wasn't even going to come out tonight. I figured this place would be full of those stuck-up types that try to act so cool...it's so funny, because at any big event, it's always the cool people who have nothing to prove who are open and friendly and the insecure ones who are too cool for school. But I'm glad I came, I've met some interesting people. My name's ____ by the way.

It's an exaggerated example to show the point (the actual routine comes from the Love Systems Routines Manual and was contributed by Mr M). The frame the guy is setting is this:

[I'm a high-value guy and know the difference between high-value people and posers. The high-value ones are open and friendly, the posers aren't. You seems to be open and friendly].

At that point, the women have a choice between:

* Acknowledging themselves as cool, which means they have to be open and friendly
* Acknowledging themselves as posers
* Challenging the frame

Most people aren't going to challenge frames unless they have. Women especially. Though it depends on how strong your frame is and how congruent you are with it. If the guy shuffles up to the group, has low-value body language and a low-value identity, then the women probably won't accept him as an authority on what high-value people do.

Sinn the PUA (as opposed to Sin, Sinn Fein, and other things that seem to come up) and I did a classic piece a while ago on using frames and frame control in Love Systems as part of the initial pickup.

But frames and frame control also has a lot to do with multiple long-term relationships (dating more than one woman at once). Especially in terms of being open about your desires.

Let's say you're in the bathroom at a friend’s place when the pizza guy comes. He grabs a few dollars out of your wallet for your share. You come into the room and he smiles and keeps doing what he’s doing. Then you enjoy some pizza.

How do you feel?

It might have crossed your mind that your friend shouldn’t have gone through your wallet, or should have waited, or should have yelled out and asked for permission, or should have paid the whole amount if he had it and then asked you for your share later. But probably not. Everything seems okay.

Now, what if you come into the room and he tries to hide what he was doing, stutters when he says he was just trying to get a couple bills from your wallet, and has a guilty expression on his face?

If he’s acting like he did something wrong, he probably did. Why the heck couldn’t he have waited a minute? Why couldn’t he have called out that the pizza guy was here and is it okay to grab a couple bucks from your wallet?

You might or might not be upset. But, there’s one thing that he CAN NOT do at this point, and that’s to look you in the eye as if what he did was totally okay. And that’s because his own behavior implied that it wasn’t.

Apply this to dating multiple women. If it's what you want, then don't hide it. A woman will respect you 10x more for being honest with her from the beginning than if she finds out later. This isn't morality, it's what works :)


Later edit - Sorry, Mr M's routine referenced above is in Volume 2 of the Love Systems Routines Manual. My bad.

Dublin, Ireland (Almost) Free Mini-Seminar April 25th

Love Systems is coming to Ireland.

(Since I've never been to Ireland, I'm kind of jealous. But Love Systems promised to send postcards, not hook up with any other dating coaches, and call me every night.)

The first ever Love Systems almost free mini-seminar will be taking place on Saturday, April 25th in Dublin.

And to celebrate, we'll be bringing two star Love Systems instructors to lead the program.

First is 5.0. This is the guy who taught the art of seduction to The Streets frontman Mike Skinner. Check out the video from British TV.



Next up is Daxx. Daxx is our London wunderkind with Gucci and Playboy models under his...ummm...belt. He's going to be sharing some of his secrets, especially around high-end attraction game.

There will also be an open Q&A session, so if there's anything need to know to take your game to the next level, here's your chance to pick the brains of these two highly-regarded instructors. There will be time to mingle, make contacts in the community, find wingmen, and after that... we hit the clubs and do what we do best!

The mini-seminar is from 5pm to 9pm downstairs in Madigan's on O'Connell Street. The cost is 20 euro for the full four hours, pay at the door.